Tuesday, March 6, 2012

careful, this one's a doozy.

last night i had a conversation about what it meant
to be part of a community.
i explained how i was hesitant to tell people my plans
because if i failed, 
i didn't want to be a disappointment. 

i get awkward when people ask,
"oh brissa, how'd that one cool thing you were really excited about go?"
only to have me say, 
"hmm? oh that? yeah. i decided not to."
or 
"oh, that's not happening anymore."

but last night i learned
that's what makes a community great.
"a community is able to share in your successes
and be sad during your failures."

it's something i need to work on.
being open without being scared. 
how can i claim to be a member of a community
if i only celebrate and cry when appropriate 
and not trust enough to contribute my stories as well?

10 comments:

Shaylynn... I BLAHWG. said...

Perfect post.

I love you Ms. Briss.

emilymcb said...

I couldn't agree more. I'm so thankful to have you as a friend.

Ashley said...

"i explained how i was hesitant to tell people my plans
because if i failed, i didn't want to be a disappointment."

^
^
PERFECT statement!! I need to work on this as well. But what I learned from Turkey is that not everyone views things not happening as disappointments. Sometimes we are too harsh on ourselves!

Kare said...

I do this all the time. Project 365 lasted 5 days. Reviewing movies lasted thirty minutes before I deleted the post. I know the feeling.

Anna said...

Love this post, Brissa. And I'm the same way. Just like all these other commenters are. There's always going to be a fear of failure and it's so hard to get over. But if you have people supporting you, it can change that all.

Anna said...

*It can change all that. Who says it can change that all? Dumb.

Nessa @{Casa Braaflat} said...

very wise.

McKenzie King said...

i love this. i guess i just love your stories and your life altogether.

McKinley {Haolepinos} said...

Thank you!!! This is what I have always said! There is no depth in any relationship if there is no emotions. If it is "hey how are you. Awesome... did you see that movie?" kind of friendship there is no bond and there is no depth it is just superficial! And I think you are dead on sistah! Also in the Bible {I think} it says that we are to be happy for one another and also grieve when others grieve and I think that is such a christ-like attribute to understand their pains and show compassion and charity even when the times are rough. Because let's be honest... it is always easier to be there for people when the going is easy and fun.

I like your new plan... and I too fear failure. I fear it so bad it paralyzes me. YOU CAN DO IT!!! And if you feel like you are failing then come to me and I will be our Failure Support Buddy! And when I decide to take a risk you can be my FSB... Deal?

But seriously this was a good post! You are very insightful and smart! You will do just fine in anything you choose to do!

Natasha Louise said...

Love this.. for years I was always to afraid to even try for fear of failing at some things and eventually I've learned to just push myself when I enjoy something or I fail, I know I tried and if I'm successful even to a little degree then bonus, even if people think otherwise, you know?? And even if it's just for the journey. don't even know if that makes sense! hehe